Remember that not getting what you have your heart set on when you were a child? Maybe it was a birthday gift, or the trip to the zoo, or if you have coveted new skateboard. It was the children but as adults we are more mature in how to deal with disappointment, or are we?

We are smart enough to know that not everything is within our reach, and there are some things that elude us, despite our economic means. Parenthood, meanwhile, is a game from the beginning. There are those among us who struggle to bring a child into the world, and those of us who can easily reproduce. Some parents may be briefly disappointed by the sex of their child, but everyone is happy for the birth of a son or daughter healthy.

Despite this recognition of a son or daughter who has ten fingers and ten toes, some of us more in secret. As our children begin to develop, we look forward Milestones typical smile, crawl, walk and talk and I can not wait to share these moments with others. We all want our children to be appropriate in achieving these highlights the development and when the rear of the standard can be difficult to accept.

As a parent of a child with autism, it is hard not to want more or be defensive when parents are more questions and comparisons with other children. "When your child feels?" "My son has to count to 20." "What was the first word of his son?" "My Sally can say" please "in French."

Interrogations or innocent comments like these can be very irritating. Proud parents want to share, and is not meant to be annoying, but many do not understand what it means to be the end to have this conversation, especially when a child has a different set of challenges to overcome. Path of growth of each child is different and unique, and measured across the meter itself is harmful.

Tuning on the results of other children can be difficult but it is extremely important to stay focused on your child and trust that with your help, it will reach its full potential which is supposed to be. Aware of the mini-steps can help you recognize the progress easier and guide you to find better ways to help your child meet the major milestones. Here are some things to remember.

What you pay attention to grows. What you choose to focus on, will have priority in your life. If you focus on what does not work, what does not work yet. If your child is still non-verbal at the age of four years, all the worrying in the world does not give his voice, but when you move your attention to all the other ways your child communicates amazing things will begin to occur. Label and respond to non-verbal language will encourage more of it to grow and improve the productive behavior to continue.

Milestones leading to very large. Many of the most important results has been achieved in small steps. Progress has to start somewhere and it usually starts small. Do not remove small portions of progress your child is doing, because it forms the basis for large sizes. Focus on behavior, to look for small signs of progress, and celebrate. If you need help will continue to focus, write each small step to save the image, which will strengthen growth.

Positive feedback creates a clear path. Kind of feedback you give your child affect their ability to take the next step. Often children can not exceed the stream, which is located between, and the goal. Every time you give a child a positive feedback and specific, it is as if you are a springboard to reach the other side. Never forget the strong leadership for the words and actions can be!

Understanding the impact of the environment. As you can see every action of your child is sensitive towards a goal, consider the environment and assess whether it is useful for its success or if it is force? This information will allow you to make small adjustments to the environment will be easier for your child to move on.

Little things mean more than you know. Do not overlook the little things that happen every day. Sometimes they are so small and insignificant they think it is easy to miss. Try using a magnifying glass and a detective to play for a day. Take time to consider consciously the little things and how they relate to the bigger picture - will be surprised what you find. Taking note of the smallest achievement can have a strong impact on the progress of each child in their struggle to realize the full potential of those who are supposed to be.

Look beyond the stages of development. All parents want their children to achieve the greatest milestones in life, but to make comparisons with other children or to accept the verdict or review for others only serve to keep you and your child stagnant. Every child has a special gift to offer the world, and each gift is different. Instead of spending your time complaining about the milestones your child has not reached, spend your time trying to discover the special gift that your child has to offer.